Marriage is a sacred bond that requires love, understanding, and compatibility to thrive. However, sometimes the course of love doesn’t run smoothly, and people realize they may have married the wrong person. Here are ten exact moments when people from an online community came face-to-face with the harsh truth that their marriage was not what they had envisioned.
1. Mirror, Mirror: When Attraction Fades
Knowing that one’s partner doesn’t find them attractive diminishes self-esteem. One man shares how he felt good about himself in a suit and hoped for a compliment from his wife. When the wife confessed to not finding him attractive, he felt unloved and knew this marriage wasn’t for him.
2. You’ve (Not) Got a Friend in Me
Having a friend within your partner is essential for a solid and lasting connection. However, things change when one realizes they wouldn’t have been friends with their partner without the relationship. Rethinking is required if you can’t find your partner worth befriending outside the relationship’s context.
3. Celebrating in Silence
In a marriage, joy is to be shared with your partner. One member shared that they knew it was over when they realized they were hiding every piece of good news from their wife because she would make them feel horrible about it. While they hoped she would grow out of such childishness, she never did, and there was nothing else to be done but leave.
4. Parenting on a Solo Mission
For many couples, having a child is a milestone and a testament to their connection. However, like all other things, parenting is also a shared responsibility. One person mentioned that their partner’s attitude changed after their kid was born. It seemed like only one of them wished to be a parent.
5. In Sickness and In… Complaints?
In marriage, partners vow to stick through illness. However, one woman realized her husband had no tolerance for her poor health. She was on bed rest caring for their infant son after having emergency surgery after a miscarriage. When her husband came home from work, he looked at her and complained about why the dishes weren’t done. Rightfully so, she left him within two weeks.
6. Love Earned: Not in the Parenting Handbook
Nothing is more shocking than a partner who can’t seem to love their children. One member shared how when she asked her husband why he didn’t tell his kids he loved them, he responded that love had to be earned. It is unfortunate to hear someone say so when children deserve unconditional love.
7. The Affair That Shattered a Decade
Infidelity destroys relationships almost instantaneously. According to one person, they realized their partner had failed them when their partner confessed to having an affair. Worse, this happened after ten years of marriage and no children. It was clear that a divorce was to be filed for such disloyalty.
8. Brittney, the Unexpected BFF
Another instance of being cheated on is narrated by a woman who was about to get married to her boyfriend of four years. Eight months before the wedding, she discovered he had been hooking up with a girl named Brittney. One day when she came home early from work, she caught her partner in the act. Funnily enough, she ended up being friends with Brittney, who confessed to not knowing that another woman was in the picture.
9. Game Over
Gaming all day without regard for household responsibilities isn’t great. One person mentions how her husband at the time was so engrossed in gaming that their dog bit through a phone battery and caused a small fire. Fortunately, the damage wasn’t too bad, but such carelessness caused feelings to die out.
10. The Cold Shoulder
Another person shares how their wife was highly insensitive to their newly diagnosed lung disorder at the time. Shortly after returning from the ER, she left him to make dinner for the kids while she went on a drinking spree with her friends.
This article was first published and syndicated by The Cents of Money.