Is She Wrong for Not Throwing an Extravagant Birthday Party for Her Daughter?

A Reddit user shares her frustration with her daughter over the birthday party she threw for her.

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The original poster (OP) explains that she is more of an introvert and her sixteen-year-old daughter is more of an extrovert.

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She adds that her relationship with her daughter has always been “challenging” because of the difference in their personalities and upbringings.

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OP’s daughter continued to insist that she wanted a sweet sixteen and stressed how important it was for her to celebrate this milestone birthday in a big way.

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OP finally relented but told her daughter that the party would be on a budget and she would be overseeing everything. Her daughter agreed.

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OP was able to find a venue, a DJ, and catering through Chipotle for around $1,500. Her daughter ok’d all of the decisions.

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OP said that even though her daughter approved of everything initially, she was obviously disappointed when they arrived at the party.

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OP explained that after the party, they drove home “in silence” and that her daughter immediately went to her room after they got home.

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OP’s daughter hasn’t spoken to her for a week, and although OP’s husband is on her side, her other daughter says she understands where her daughter is coming from.

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Is She Wrong for Not Throwing an Extravagant Birthday Party for Her Daughter?

A Reddit user shares her frustration with her daughter over the birthday party she threw for her.

The original poster (OP) explains that she is more of an introvert and her sixteen-year-old daughter is more of an extrovert.

She adds that her relationship with her daughter has always been “challenging” because of the difference in their personalities and upbringings.

OP’s daughter continued to insist that she wanted a sweet sixteen and stressed how important it was for her to celebrate this milestone birthday in a big way.

The Birthday Debacle

OP finally relented but told her daughter that the party would be on a budget and she would be overseeing everything. Her daughter agreed.

The Birthday Debacle

OP was able to find a venue, a DJ, and catering through Chipotle for around $1,500. Her daughter ok’d all of the decisions.

The Birthday Debacle

OP said that even though her daughter approved of everything initially, she was obviously disappointed when they arrived at the party.

The Birthday Debacle

OP explained that after the party, they drove home “in silence” and that her daughter immediately went to her room after they got home.

The Birthday Debacle

OP’s daughter hasn’t spoken to her for a week, and although OP’s husband is on her side, her other daughter says she understands where her daughter is coming from.

The Birthday Debacle

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