She told her sister-in-law that she didn't want to be in her wedding.

A Reddit user shared her story of telling her soon-to-be sister-in-law that she didn’t actually want to be in her wedding.

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Estranged Siblings The original poster (OP) explained that her brother is getting married in May, and they haven’t been close for a while.

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She occasionally sees him when she visits her grandmother. OP has met his fiancee a couple of times and said she is fine but that they have very different lives and priorities.

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However, OP acknowledges that she is great for her brother and is happy for them. She said that her brother’s fiancee is very high maintenance and is obsessed with having her “dream wedding” and being a princess.

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OP said that the group chats never stopped. She is expected to fly down for dress shopping and other bridesmaid duties.

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She said OP could be an “honorary bridesmaid,” and she could still help with the wedding and showers and the bachelorette party.

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What OP said made her SIL cry, and her brother called her angry, saying if OP didn’t apologize, she would not be invited to the wedding. OP said she is seriously considering not apologizing and not making the trip.

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The Masses Weigh In One user said, “NTA. Sounds like you were very supportive and then your SIL tossed you aside because you were pregnant."

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She sounds like a handful. And then wants you to do the work anyway. Don’t apologize unless she apologizes for treated you poorly because your pregnant.

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