She Told Her Son’s Girlfriend That She Won’t Accept Her Mental Health Excuses Anymore

A Reddit user shared her story of having to crack down on her son’s girlfriend after she continuously used her mental health as an excuse not to do anything.

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The original poster (OP) explained that her son started dating his girlfriend three years ago, and at the end of 2021, she moved into their house.

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OP said she allowed it because of her son’s mental health and feelings.

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His girlfriend’s parents were moving out of state and since she didn’t have any family or friends she could stay with where OP and her son lived, she would have had to move with them.

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OP said her son cried for weeks because he thought she was going to move. OP decided to protect her son and his feelings and allowed her to move in.

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OP made it clear to them that she expected rent payments and that the girlfriend would have to get a job. They both agreed.

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OP had it put in writing and filled out as a tenancy agreement so that they could use her as a reference when they moved out in the future.

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The first couple of months, it seemed like Amber was trying to get a job, but after that she stopped caring.

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OP would ask her if she had rent, and she would say, “You know I don’t” and shrugged it off. OP’s son was paying their entire rent by himself.

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She Told Her Son’s Girlfriend That She Won’t Accept Her Mental Health Excuses Anymore

A Reddit user shared her story of having to crack down on her son’s girlfriend after she continuously used her mental health as an excuse not to do anything.

The original poster (OP) explained that her son started dating his girlfriend three years ago, and at the end of 2021, she moved into their house.

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OP said she allowed it because of her son’s mental health and feelings.

A Generous Offer

His girlfriend’s parents were moving out of state and since she didn’t have any family or friends she could stay with where OP and her son lived, she would have had to move with them.

A Generous Offer

OP said her son cried for weeks because he thought she was going to move. OP decided to protect her son and his feelings and allowed her to move in.

A Generous Offer

OP made it clear to them that she expected rent payments and that the girlfriend would have to get a job. They both agreed.

A Generous Offer

OP had it put in writing and filled out as a tenancy agreement so that they could use her as a reference when they moved out in the future.

A Generous Offer

The first couple of months, it seemed like Amber was trying to get a job, but after that she stopped caring.

A Generous Offer

OP would ask her if she had rent, and she would say, “You know I don’t” and shrugged it off. OP’s son was paying their entire rent by himself.

A Generous Offer

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