Abandoned Daughter Praised For Refusing To Pay For Her Estranged Mom’s Surgery

A daughter shared her story online of her estranged mother trying to reconnect so she could pay for her mom’s surgery. She turned to an online community, asking if she was wrong for not paying for her mom’s surgery, given her story.

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The original poster (OP) said that she lost her father when she was young, and a few months after his death, her mom married a new guy. The new guy already had two teenage boys and didn’t want to raise OP because he never wanted daughters. OP’s mother abandoned her daughter and brought her brother to live with her new husband.

Her Stepfather Was Wealthy and Spoiled Her Mom

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OP’s stepfather was wealthy and would spoil her mother and brother but never gave anything to her. Her mother didn’t do anything for her either. She only visited monthly and didn’t call on Christmas or New Year’s.

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Fortunately for the OP, her aunt, who didn’t have children, raised her, and was a blessing for both of them. OP saved money in high school and put herself through college.

Found Success In Her Career

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She graduated with a degree in computer science and landed a great job with an excellent salary. Since then, OP got a better job with a better salary and was able to help her aunt and uncle renovate their house.

Her Mom Reached Out But With Ulterior Motives

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OP said that her mom reached out via Instagram, where she could see OP’s lifestyle. She asked if she and OP could meet and talk and reevaluate their relationship.

OP had a soft heart and agreed to meet with her mom. When they met, her mom hugged her, kissed her on the cheek, and told her she missed her. They talked about OP’s life, and when OP asked how she was doing, she began to talk about how bad her life was. She had divorced John, and OP’s brother wanted nothing to do with her now that she was poor.

OP Refused to Help Her Mother

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She was living on a pension from her ex-husband and has developed severe heart problems. She asked if OP would pay for the surgery she needed, which was quite expensive.

OP refused and said she wouldn’t feel good about it. Her mom yelled at her in the middle of the restaurant, saying she was a terrible daughter and that she was letting her die even though OP could afford the surgery. OP said she left feeling very upset.

OP is Confident But Asks Her Aunt



When OP brought it up with her aunt, her aunt said that, ultimately, it was her decision but that she had plenty of money to pay for it, and it wouldn’t affect her financially. OP decided she didn’t want to pay because her mom had never been there for her.

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Most people praised her for not helping her mother after she left her alone and separated her from her brother. Two significant sentiments on the forum: “She abandoned you; you don’t owe her a thing,” and “She should ask her son who stuck with the ‘rich step Daddy’ to pay for it.”  Given the unfortunate circumstances that her mother put her in, it was amazing that she could pay for college and build a life for herself. Now that she is at the beginning of her career and succeeding, her estranged mom doesn’t deserve her help.

His Wife Makes Substantially More Money But Refuses To Support His Elderly Parents

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A 47-year-old husband, the OP (original poster), turned to an online forum with his frustrations about his wife not pitching in to support his parents financially. He agrees it is not her responsibility, but she makes significantly more money than he does. She refused, and OP didn’t understand her reasoning or the hostility or shock he received from the forum. Here is his story.

A Couple Fights Over the Back-to-School Budget Despite Having a $2+ Million Net Worth

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The best marriages have difficulties, and many challenges often deal with financial situations that must be resolved.  Couples must have conversations about their money handling and deal with disputes when they occur to stay calm through years of potential misunderstanding.

Are You Being Too Courteous For Your Own Good? You May Be By Doing These Things

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Are you sometimes courteous to some people out of fear of offending them and worrying about what they think of you? Being respectful to others is a sign of good character, but you may be going too far. You may be helping others when you lack time to do your chores. Learn to say ‘no’ before committing to do things for others. You may be too polite for your good.

10 Things People Associated With Rich People When They Were Kids

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When we were kids, certain things always seemed to be associated with wealth and luxury. Let’s look at ten things members of an online forum, as kids, believed only belonged to the rich.

22 Dead Giveaways That Someone Grew Up Poor Long After Escaping Poverty

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Being poor is not a choice but often a reflection of society and should never be a mark of shame. Those who grew up poor have a mindset that is not easy to shake long after escaping poverty. The residual effects of feeling hunger and cold bring back memories that spurred gratitude, resourcefulness,  and nostalgia by some who shared their experiences on a popular online community, answering, What are dead giveaways that someone grew up poor?” I recognized similar incidents familiar to me, bringing back memories from my upbringing. 

This article was produced and syndicated by The Cents of Money.

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